Fear Makes a Manager Poor

Original Post: inthesqueeze by Dustin Britt



"You always fear...what you don't understand"
- Carmine Falcone, Batman Begins

You also fear what you can't control, especially if you risk losing something you feel you need to "make it".

Fear is one of those weird drivers that doesn't make sense, but often seems to get the best of us; reaching its height of feeding frenzy at the worst possible moments.

Afraid of losing your job?
Watch fear kick in and cause you to do the very dumb things you don't want to do if you want to keep your job.

Afraid of saying the wrong thing?
Fear loves to distract you to the point of keeping you bound up and at a loss for the boldness you need to say the right thing.

Afraid of not making someone happy?
Guess what, you'll never make everyone happy. A focus on pleasing people = pending disaster.

Afraid of saying no?
You won't be respected enough for someone to trust you when they need to say yes.

Afraid of going against the flow?
So are most people, which means you'll just fit right into the vanilla school of everyone else.
Recognize fear for what it is and then get rid of it. It has no place in the office of a good manager.

http://www.inthesqueeze.com/2009/07/fear-makes-manager-poor.html

Dealing With a Spouse’s Layoff

Original Post: Dealing With a Spouse’s Layoff

Walking on the beach

This week, my husband was laid off for the second time in five years. This one hurts more than the first. At that time, I held a corporate job, so our health insurance and other benefits remained intact. But I became a full-time freelancer after he found a stable job with benefits. Now that’s all gone or won’t be around for long.

After I stopped reeling, it was time to start dealing. And deal I did — by taking these actions.

Accept the situation. It does no one good to scream and worry about it. Of course, I still worry about the situation, but I don’t let it paralyze me or prevent me from moving forward. It’s OK to scream when you hear the news, just know when to stop and move on.

Stick to the schedule. Despite the bad news, you need to try to stick to the schedule and make your deadlines.

Respond to emails at the right time. Sometimes you may not be in the best frame of mind to reply to a difficult email. Address problems and more challenging emails when you know you can respond logically and not emotionally.

Take care of your physical self. Exercise eases some of the pent up stress and symptoms that come with it. I also make sure I get my seven to eight hours of sleep, drink plenty of water and follow a balanced diet.

Help with the job search. This gives you a feeling of some control. Plus, you might be able to contact some people that your spouse doesn’t know.

Reach out to friends and colleagues. Letting others know about the situation ensures others understand why you may not act like everything is hunky dory. They might also help by contacting their connections who may have jobs or know people who do. If your friend is laid off, wouldn’t you want to know?

Write about the situation and your feelings. For some people, writing down their thoughts and emotions can ease the frustration and anger.

I know we’re no different from the many families with at least one person out of a job. My sister, my friends and others have all had loved ones out of work for months. All we can do is talk and support each other while pushing forward to find the right job where employee and employer can benefit from the partnership.

How Do You stay Positive In Your Job-Search?

Original Post: How Do You stay Positive In Your Job-Search?




This post is inspired from a recent conversation with @JRMoreau, @mehnazt & @abroman (all on Twitter)
It’s a tough slog out there for a lot of us looking for job, and have been at it for a long time. There has been much blog-writing about what people can do to keep themselves clued-in and busy while seeking a job. From volunteering, to unpaid internships, to professional networking events, there’s lots out there you can use your time toward, in a manner that is relevant to your professional goals.
But I’m no saint, and neither are lots of other job seekers out there. I know that after a point, the motivation and excitement in doing unpaid work slowly wanes. Activities that you hope will land you contacts, which will eventually (and hopefully) lead to a meeting (for a job), don’t always yield the right results, even if meticulously planned. It’s easy to feel pessimistic, lose faith in yourself and lose the personal drive to keep at it.
Over the last year that I’ve been seeking a job and volunteering opportunities, I’ve struggled to find ways to keep myself going. To move from one potential to the next without telling myself ‘it’s not worth it’. To continue to believe in myself every single day. I am always keen on knowing what others in a similar situation do to keep themselves motivated, and thought that writing about it would be a great way to find out. Hopefully this can also give tips and support to others in the same boat as me. So this is what has worked for me:

  1. Do one thing you always wanted to do / learn about but never had the time to do it: Remember when you had a job, and you said you’ve always wanted to run a marathon but never had the time to train for it? No excuses now! Being out of a full-time job means having more time on hand to pursue interests. Read a book you’ve always wanted to, teach yourself how to roller-blade, start a blog, or go meet a friend across town you never had the time to catch up with.I used the last year to teach myself about internet marketing.
    I also taught myself to cook (for real) and used the time to start my own food blog, that I also use as a medium to test social media promotion tactics.

  2. Maintain a schedule: Idle time and lack of a structure to your day is a sure-shot way to allow negative thoughts to creep in. Most of us are hard-wired into feeling useful when there’s a format to the day, and the lack of a full-time job removes that structure. I keep fixed times for meals, make a list of things I’ll tackle for the day (and then stick to it), end the day with defining a rough agenda for the next day, and I try and stop all job-search related work at about 6 pm, post which I cook dinner, and tend to chores. A lot like how I would do it if I did have a full-time job.


  3. Work out of your home as much as is possible: Variety in work environs often bring out the better in us. Besides, the lack of human interaction on a daily basis is just plain unhealthy. Step out of your home and work at a café, or at the library. You may even find a job-search buddy you can share notes with!


  4. Exercise: We all know exercising releases hormones that keep us happy. It is natural to think that one should only do activities that are job-search related after losing a job, and not ‘waste’ time doing anything else. In the process, I’ve seen several job seekers give up on their health. Exercising seriously does relieve stress (even if it’s a half hour walk every other day), takes your mind off things, and most importantly, is fantastic for your sanity! Combine pt 1 and 4 and you can take up that free introductory Pilates class you’ve always wanted to.


So what works for you? What do you do keep yourself upbeat while seeking a job? I’d love to hear from you!

10 Things To Do When Your Are Unemployed

Original Post: http://themillennialmind.com/10-things-to-do-when-your-unemployed/ by Josh






I am lucky enough to be able to survive quite comfortably with the unemployment checks that come in every week. My rent and bills are quite low and my car was paid off right before I was laid off. While I was working at the hotel, I had to work crazy shifts and the hours seem to take a huge toll on my health and well being. I was not thinking clearly and was always drowsy and could not start the day with any energy. I have taken the time off to do the things I love to do. I have compiled a list of things I do to stay on top of my game and stay positive. You can use these methods or create your own.
10 Things To Do When Your Unemployed
  1. Build a Business. This was my first priority when I was laid-off. At first I panicked and started to apply to jobs, polished my resume, started networking, and could not grasp that I was without work. I took a step back and realized that I would have never thought about starting a business if I didn't get laid-off. I find it a true blessing in disguise. Notice how I said build a business, not start a business. Anyone can start a business, but it's something else to build one.
  2. Travel. I have never been to the Western part of the United States until I moved out to Las Vegas. Sad, I know. I have never seen the oceans of California, the deserts of Arizona, the Grand Canyon, or the winery's in Napa Valley. I was sheltered and was never given the opportunity to go traveling. After being laid-off, I finally found the time to explore these wonderful sights. I was talking to one of my friends and we were discussing traveling overseas. He told me he never had a passport before. It is quite a daunting statistic that most American's don't have their passports. I am lucky enough to have one. According to the Travel.State.Gov website, the amount of passports issued in 2008 was 16,208,003. That is down more than 10% from the previous year which issued 18,382,798 passports. That is a huge drop in passports! What happened? I mean even after the year 9/11 occurred there was only a slight decrease in passport issuance! This recession has hit people hard! If you want to take a look at the statistics it is here.
  3. Have more sex. Yes, what excuse do you have now? You don't have time? You have to go to work? Nope, just do it, have as much as you can. Once you start working or start a business, you won't have time to do this. So have fun, and keep it safe.
  4. Exercise. I know, it's easier said than done. I understand that. It takes a lot of effort to get yourself motivated to go to the gym. I found out why I did not go as frequently until I got laid-off. I found out that I only had 1 single pair of gym shorts and 2 pairs of socks. This gave me two trips to the gym without doing laundry. I found out that I was only going two days out of the week and waiting for laundry day before I would even think about going again. I fixed this problem by just buying more socks and a couple of more pairs of gym shorts. I now go at least 3-4 times a week and feel energized and ready to take on the day!
  5. Spend More Time With Family Or Friends. I have taken this principle to the fullest. While living in Vegas is great and all, I am 3000 miles away from NYC where my family resides. Most of my friends got laid-off at the same time I did, so we have been spending quality time with each other. We have game nights and go out and have dinner or drinks. We have grown closer and being laid-off brought us together more than ever. If you have family spend more time with them. If you have kids try and give your full attention to them because they are the future. Your babysitter, daycare, or school has seen them more than you while you were working. Isn't it time to give that time your job took away, and give it back to your children?
  6. Eat Healthy. It has been an arduous process but I am slowly adapting to eating healthier. I have no more excuses. I try to leave a large bowl of fruit in the kitchen so I can grab a quick snack without rummaging through the pantry or refrigerator. I used to put my fruit in the refrigerator but realized they would go rotten because I did not want to go into the refrigerator to get fruit.
  7. Cook At Home. This is extremely fun. I love to cook and make food from anything I can find. I find it very satisfying to make something for yourself. Try and have a dinner party with your friends and have them bring over something they cooked. This brings people together and it's not that expensive.
  8. Read More. I find that I do that more than ever. All it takes is a library card and you can read about anything you are interested in. I gravitated more towards the business section but there are books, movies, cds, and magazines about everything at the library. It has been my new love since I was laid-off
  9. Try A New Hobby. You never know how this can help you. I started to do photography and I never knew how much I enjoyed it until I bought a D-SLR camera. Pictures are something you can keep forever, and if you have a good eye for lighting and can be creative you can even make a living at it. Wedding photographers can charge up to $3000 (not to say that is the limit, I have seen much higher prices) for one wedding. Hobbies can be very fulfilling and you can learn something new.
  10. Relax. Yes, relax. Take some time to do things you want to do. You deserve it. Working 9-5, 40+ hours can take a toll on you and your relationships. Take this time to give it back to yourself.
These are things I try and do for myself. I try and work hard in everything I put my mind to. You should as well. Turn off that TV and find other things to do with your time. We spend so much time with TV that we don't see our time just fly us by. We can never get that time back so why not put it to good use?

Career Advice That Needs To Be Revamped (Or Trashed)

Original Post: Career Advice That Needs To Be Revamped (Or Trashed)



Dress for the job you want

With the culture of business casual practically taking over America’s corporations – what does “dressing for success” actually mean? Not coming to work dressed like a complete slob (or lunatic) is obvious – yet, what does dressing for the job have to do with what I want?

People dress for moods and attitudes. Not for jobs. I don’t think you can. Your career (just like your style) morphs with you – and who knows what that will look like at any given time. A lot of people tout this advice because it provides a sense of control. And, if you are smart, you should willingly relinquish some control in order to be in better control of your life.

Dressing like a corporate banker doesn’t guarantee you’ll be a corporate banker – just have loads of credit card debt.

Don’t feel that wanting a job in advertising gives you the stylistic permission to be as fashionably adventurous as you want while still expecting people to take you seriously.

Good careers are not predicated on dressing for the job you eventually see yourself in. It doesn’t make sense. Dress for the work you are doing. Don’t waste time developing a job costume for a career you might not even have.

The only difference between you and the boss is the pay check and self awareness. Looking important and being important are two different things.

Do people take first impressions and appearances for granted? Yes. Nevertheless, trying to look the part before you are the part is not only a little presumptuous, but vastly short sighted as well. It’s an interesting (but kiddie pool shallow) concept.

There are plenty of broke fashionistas working in a dentist’s office.

Don’t quit a job without notice


Day after day after day, people come to one of my most popular posts and comment about quitting a job without giving notice to their boss. It almost sounds like an unspoken professional phenomenon.

So, if so many people are doing it, why is it such a big deal? Hell, quit your job – no letter, no notice – and get on with it.

Yet, it still bothers people. Primarily, I think it bothers people because there is some half-hearted desire to feel justified in giving crappy employers their just desserts. Oh, yeah – people feel 10 times better once they quit a horrific job, but it still doesn’t stop them googling “quit without notice” and arriving at TWS.

Therefore, I don’t get it. Let’s stop telling people to not be assholes and quit their jobs without notice. They’ll do it no matter what. They will relish in the enjoyment that is the double edged sword of not having a job and not having a job they hate.

Will some regret such actions? Of course.

But, probably not as much as people who stay in hellish jobs and never quit because they’re too afraid to do anything else.

But, if anyone has any stories about not hiring a potential employee because they quit their last job without notice – I’d love to hear ‘em.

It’ll break up the monotony.

Start a blog


I may get into trouble on this one. In fact, I’ve been guilty of this advice numerous amounts of times. Yet, since I’ve started blogging – I’ve learned a blog is not a blog by itself.

Unless it’s a crappy one.

Entering the blogosphere is about continuing your conversation online, adding a 3rd dimension to your “idea” portfolio. Yet, honestly, I do not think many people are able to do this effectively or with any confidence.

It’s one thing to have a blog about project management – but it’s entirely another to fold that conversation into something of tangible value for project managers.

Blogs are not necessarily a means to end, but they are for some people. That’s where such job advice originates. Career advisers suggest that you start a blog on the industry you are in (or interested in being in), but they also neglect to tell you the hard work blogging requires.

Even if you include the people who blog because they simply enjoy it – it’s still a lot of damn work.

Then, there are those who think they should get paid to blog. That’s fine if you can create that situation, but let’s not be so egotistical as to think people should pay to read whatever the hell you’re thinking (or writing).

Getting paid for blogging might make it a tinge bit easier, but even then – you are better off blogging because you want to (not because you are getting paid to).

(Fantastic) bloggers just don’t sit at a computer and type - even if that is the end result. Like I said: blogging -real blogging- is a lot of damn work. It’s just like any other job that requires you to be intellectually engaged, honest and insightful.

You can just turn it on once the Mac boots up.

Don’t start a blog for your career, start it as part of your career. And, even then, do it because you enjoy it – not for the possible magic poof of a career.


2 Twitter Tools to Manage Your Sentiment Rating

Original Post: Sentiment Analysis: How Do People Feel About You On Twitter?


Do you know how people feel about you on Twitter? Are the tweets about you or your product mostly positive, negative or neutral? While things like feelings and sentiment can seem fuzzy and “touchy-feely,” there are sentiment analysis tools available for Twitter that attempt to classify tweets into either positive, negative or neutral categories automatically using algorithms and lists of keywords. For example, using words like “sucks,” “sad” and “hate” would be classified as negative, while “awesome,” “great” and “love” would be positive, with a neutral rating given to anything not falling into one of the other two categories.
As you can probably guess, the results from sentiment analysis tools vary widely, with many tweets ending up in the wrong category. Each tool is only as good as the list of keywords and the algorithms it uses, and they are easily confused by imperfect human beings who send mixed signals into their algorithms. For example, this tweet from @PDXrox was classified by one tool as positive and negative by another, based on confusion over using both “dang” and “:(” while also using the word “love:”
“Dang! Both @backfencepdx and @igniteportland have scheduled their events for the same night – Nov 19th. I love them both – wah! :-(“
You have a few options for sentiment analysis. If you are doing work for a company with budget for analysis tools, you should seriously think about purchasing a tool like Techrigy’s SM2, Scout Labs or other social media monitoring packages with sentiment analysis, since they have more robust features than some of the free tools. For those of us doing personal monitoring or working at small companies with limited budgets, there are some free tools that you can use to get at least a rough idea of how people feel about you or your products and services.
twendz
twendz is certainly the best free tool that I used, which isn’t really surprising since it was created by Waggener Edstrom, a large public relations firm with a vested interest in having accurate sentiment analysis for its clients. It handled my complex search query with ease when other tools did not, and it constantly updates in the browser window with new tweets. It also has some really nice features, including sentiment summary per tag and the ability to see exactly which tweets are positive or negative overall or for each tag.
twendz
twitrratr
I have some fundamental issues with twitrratr: It doesn’t handle complex searches; it doesn’t pick up new tweets very quickly and it doesn’t have additional analysis by tag or other parameters. However, I like how you can easily see at a glance the tweets that are positive, negative and neutral with words highlighted to show you why the tweet was put in the positive or negative category.
twittrratr
As I mentioned before, these tools aren’t perfect. Any time you are dealing with human beings and our imprecise languages, there will be plenty of opportunities for putting tweets into the wrong categories. However, sentiment analysis does provide a starting point and a rough idea for assessing how you people feel about you or your product.


The Interview Waltz

The Interview Waltz




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by dannys42

Under a great deal of pressure in stress during my job hunt, I've found myself reverting to another point of reference about pleasing others in the hopes that they'll take you: the ballet audition.

I've danced ever since I was three. Since I was nine until I graduated from high school, I took around 5-6 classes a week, including jazz and modern. I took summer intensives at a local arts school, and auditioned for several professional schools, and was accepted to two (I picked the Rock School, which was a big mistake, but that's another story for another day). I auditioned for a prestigious production of the Nutcracker, where I danced in the corps. In college, upon discovering a dance program heavily skewed toward neo-modern dance, I helped found student-run ballet group that provides ballet classes and performances, which involved many other auditions over the years.

And now, as I brace myself for job interviews, I can't help but imagine them as auditions.

Like ballet auditions, interviews are nerve-wracking even before they begin. Though thankfully, I haven't had to face competitors face to face yet, like the ballerinas who use intimidation by show offing and stretching and pirouetting before the audition begins, I can still imagine them there, hovering in the back of my mind. Like eying the dancers around me at an audition, I wonder what the other candidates have got on me. Are they smarter? Do they have a Masters? Are they 35 and got laid off, but have 10 years experience in the field? And like a good dancer, I try to warm myself up (mentally), preparing myself for the worst, trying to recall the answers I've prepared for more commonly asked questions, and trying to calm my brain to sound as articulate as possible.

When the interview begins, it's much like an audition. Faced with one or more people judging you, and one person directing you, you're expected to be at your very best, trying to stand out, to be the one that catches their eye. While in an audition, you have to pay close attention to the teacher and the steps he/she gives, you must also keep an eye on the judges, in the hopes they noticed you. You have to make sure you're doing the right combinations, but doing them with perfect technique and some sort of emotion, too. In an interview, in the meantime, you have to make eye contact with everyone in the room, and make sure you're not just directing yourself toward the person who asked the last question. You have to answer the questions adequately but also use body language, eye contact, hand shakes, and enthusiasm.

If, for whatever reason, you mess up, or fall, or stub your toe, you have to keep going, to pull yourself together and hope that no one noticed or that your technique will be impressive enough to overcome your mistake. Similarly, in an interview, if you find you've made a gaff or misspoken or gave a really silly answer, you have to battle on and pick yourself up.

Some auditions leave you in less suspense: you're told immediately if you made it to the next round or if you've been accepted. Others are not so kind: you have to wait to be contacted (back in the day, by snail mail). In interviews, you usually have to wait to find out, though you'll often have an inkling to how you did. Like at a ballet audition, I find myself wondering, "Will I get a call-back?" For the life of me, I cannot bring myself to visualize a second interview as a second interview. Inevitably, I'll pray for that call or email telling me I have a call back.

And finally, I find myself in the battle between hubris and humiliation, depending on whether I get that call-back. So far in my job hunt since I've been back in the US, I haven't made it past the last round, and find myself wallowing in the same self-pity and sadness that I'd find myself in after not making it in an audition.

But I have to dust myself off, strap my pointe shoes back on (or in the case of interviews, pointy-toed black heels), and get back out there.