Stop Being a Ghost in Meetings

You’re in a meeting.

People are talking over you.
Your ideas get ignored.
You might as well be invisible.

It’s not them. It’s you.

You’re not commanding the room.
You’re slouching. Mumbling.
Hiding in the corner.

Here’s how to fix it. Fast.

1. Walk in like you own it.
   Shoulders back. Chin up.
   Sit at the power table. Not the wall.

2. Say less. Hit harder.
   One killer point.
   Deliver it crisp.
   Pause. Let it sink in.

3. Own the silence.
   Don’t fill it with fluff.
   Confidence speaks louder than words.

This isn’t about being loud.
It’s about being unforgettable.

One meeting can change your career.
Don’t blow it.

Ready to dominate?

P.S. If you’re still sitting in the back, you’re choosing to lose. Step up. Now.
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The Raw Edge of Honest Communication in Crafting a Bulletproof Brand

The Raw Edge of Honest Communication in Crafting a Bulletproof Brand

Why Brutal Honesty Trumps Slick Talk

Nobody buys a polished facade anymore. If your words drip with corporate slime or vague promises, people will ditch you faster than a bad Tinder date. Whether you’re rallying a team, pitching a service, or carving out your personal brand, raw honesty is the steel spine of trust. Spell out your intentions. Admit when you screw up. Let people see the unfiltered you. That’s what hooks them. They’ll respect you for it and stick around because you’re not feeding them rehearsed garbage. Trust isn’t built on perfection. It’s forged in the messy truth.

Cut the Noise and Speak Human

Your message lands harder when it’s stripped to the bone. Ditch the buzzwords and fluffy jargon that make eyes roll. Talk like you’re explaining it to a friend over beers. Answer questions straight up. Lay out your reasoning so people get why you do what you do. When you communicate with zero pretense, folks stop sniffing for hidden agendas and actually hear you. Clarity isn’t just refreshing. It’s a power move that makes people lean in and trust your next step. Muddy words breed doubt. Sharp ones command attention.

Real Talk Builds a Tribe

People don’t just follow brands. They rally behind humans they vibe with. Want a brand that pulls in your kind of people? Lead with unapologetic truth. Share the gritty moments, not just the highlight reel. Let them in on the struggles and the lessons. Make them feel like they’re riding shotgun on your journey. When you stop posing and start owning your story, you create a connection that’s tougher to break than a Nokia 3310. Authenticity isn’t a buzzword. It’s the glue that turns strangers into loyal fans.

Own Every Word and Dominate

Your reputation isn’t some abstract thing. It’s built brick by brick through every email, post, and handshake. Show up with unwavering honesty, and you’ll leave a mark that sticks. People will peg you as the one who delivers, no fluff, no excuses. Be the voice that cuts through the noise. Make it impossible for anyone to question your integrity. When you communicate like you’ve got nothing to hide, people don’t just trust you. They choose you. And in a world drowning in fakes, that’s how you rise to the top.

Essential Soft Skills: The Hidden Career Accelerator for Ambitious Professionals - Guest Post from Timo

 Essential Soft Skills: The Hidden Career Accelerator for Ambitious Professionals

Why Technical Expertise Isn't Enough

In today's competitive landscape, technical proficiency alone won't propel your career growth forward. While your subject matter knowledge and hard skills or analytical abilities get you in the door, it's your soft skills that ultimately determine how far you'll go. Many professionals focus intensely on technical mastery but overlook the career-defining power of strategic relationship building, effective communication, and personal brand development. The most successful professionals understand that interpersonal skills and human connections drive opportunities, promotions, and innovations. Recognizing this gap in your professional development could be the catalyst that transforms your career trajectory from linear to exponential. In this age of AI, automation and AI tools are changing the career environments at an accelerated speed. Due to this reality your human skills will be even more essential to master. They are your most important skills to gain edge over your competition.

Master the Art of Strategic Professional Networking

Networking skills go far beyond collecting business cards, they're about creating meaningful professional connections that compound over time. Start by identifying five key relationships in your current environment that could accelerate your growth. These might include a potential mentor, a cross-departmental collaborator, or someone whose expertise complements yours. Invest time in these relationships without expecting immediate returns. Ask thoughtful questions about their projects, offer genuine assistance through collaboration, and find opportunities to showcase your unique talents. When you build relationships with intention rather than desperation, you create a support system that elevates your work and amplifies your visibility across your organization and industry.The key is to have those relationships built far and long before you need them.

Develop Communication Skills That Impact and Influence

Communication skills form the essential bridge between your ideas and real-world implementation. The ability to articulate complex concepts clearly, both verbally and in writing, separates average contributors from trusted advisors and future leaders. Practice explaining technical concepts without jargon to different audiences. Focus on the value and outcomes of your work rather than just the process. When presenting in meetings, structure your thoughts with a clear problem statement, insights from your analysis, and specific recommendations. This approach positions you as a strategic thinker rather than just an executor. Remember that persuasion and influence come from making others feel understood before seeking to be understood yourself. Strong interpersonal communication is consistently rated as one of the most important skills needed for career advancement.

Develop Personal Branding and Thought Leadership

Your distinct perspective is your most valuable career asset for personal branding. While many  professionals blend into the background, those who thoughtfully share their insights become recognized thought leaders in their field. Document your learning journey and share key insights through platforms that showcase your thinking. Contribute to discussions by offering a fresh angle rather than repeating conventional wisdom. When you consistently deliver value through your unique lens, decision-makers begin to seek your input on critical initiatives. This visibility at work creates a positive feedback loop that generates increasingly impactful opportunities and cements your reputation as an indispensable team member. Creating a personal brand doesn't require becoming an influencer—it simply means being known for specific expertise and value that makes you stand out in your professional community. The greatest wins are achieved using this simple system:
Give,
Give,
Give,
Never expect anything back,
Give,
Profit!?!

Take Action Today for Career Growth

The gap between knowing and doing defines career success. Start applying these essential soft skills for career advancement immediately:

1. Schedule one professional networking conversation this week with someone whose work you admire for potential mentorship. Maybe even someone you know from one of the social media apps you are on.

2. Before your next meeting, prepare one insightful question or observation that demonstrates your leadership skills and adds unique value. Go in prepared, listen and then go for the value.

3. Document one learning from your current project or career situation that could benefit others and strengthen your personal brand. Give it for free.

4. Subscribe for FREE to the High Stakes Human Skills newsletter for daily/weekly actionable strategies on developing the interpersonal skills needed for promotions and advancement. Take advantage of the discounts during the 100 Days 100 Articles challenge

5. Visit TimoCodes.com for resources that complement your soft skills development with practical tools for modern professionals. The resources are highly geared for tech related skills.

Your career growth depends on this powerful combination of professional expertise and interpersonal excellence. The professionals who master both domains don't just participate in their industries, they shape them through effective collaboration and influence. The strategies you need to get promoted and accelerate your professional development are waiting for you. Take that first step today.

Communication is Your Ultimate Super Power

Expand Your Impact Through Clear Communication

Your career as an IT professional demands more than technical knowledge. Clear communication sets you apart from those who struggle to convey important ideas. Communication is your super power when you hone it relentlessly. You can make your voice resonate in boardrooms, project calls, or team meetings. This skill helps you coordinate and lead groups toward successful outcomes. You have what it takes to excel, and your readiness to grow ensures you remain relevant in a field that evolves every day.

Adapt to Different Audiences

Adapting to your audience is a decisive factor in effective communication. When you face executives, simplify technical details into relevant benefits. When you address peers, offer precise insights that spark collaboration. By customizing your approach, you foster trust and ensure your points are heard. This effort refines your credibility and strengthens professional relationships. Remember, each group has unique goals, so adjust your style until you find the right balance.

Cultivate Your Communication Muscle

Strengthening your communication muscle starts with consistent practice. Invest time in public speaking or presentation courses to refine your delivery. Seek feedback from colleagues to spot blind spots and turn them into opportunities. Use digital platforms as testing grounds for concise content that clarifies complex topics. This type of practice fortifies your confidence and positions you as a resource to your network. With every interaction, you become a better storyteller, able to bridge gaps and solve problems.

Take Charge Now

Step forward and claim your role as a top communicator. Communication is a powerful force when you apply it strategically, so challenge yourself to improve every day. By refining your message and reading your audience, you strengthen your impact. This skill elevates your professional presence and fosters lasting connections. You have what it takes to stand out in any setting, and your determination sets you on a path of growth. Act today and see how communication reshapes your success.

The 4 Rules to Being a Great Communicator

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Have you ever met someone who could say one thing and mean something else? On the surface that seems to be a really valuable skill but in the long run it will backfire on you every time.

Here is an example of changing the meaning of a sentence. Speak the sentence out loud emphasizing a different word each time.

"I did not say she did it."

Emphasizing each word changes the meaning of the sentence. In order to be a great communicator

Say what you mean.

When you say something, choose your words carefully and measure the response of your audience. It is the speakers responsibility to transfer the message to the audience, whether that is an audience of one or a few. You as the speaker are responsible for your words and their impact. It is irresponsible to talk about thing you know nothing about. 

Shut up, if you don't have anything to say.

It is better to be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt. Great communicators are most often great listeners. They will listen to the others in the conversation (like a date) and then ask follow up questions about the topic. It is the high calling of a gentleman to know when to keep his thoughts to himself.

Be interested in the other person(s).

When speaking to a large audience, more than 3, remember that you are speaking to each one individually. You are having a personal conversation with each person in the audience. Look into their eyes and see if they are hearing what you want them to hear. If they are confused simplify the statement. If they are bored, liven it up. If they are not interested, stop and ask them what they want.

Tell the Truth, gently

No one trusts a BS artist. You may think that you've got it over on us, but you are wrong. Tell the truth even when it may not be the most palatable thing to say. You will build integrity and character that will out last anything else. Telling the truth is hard and very few do it. If you must point out something wrong that will upset your listener, do it gently. There is no reason to be a harsh jerk when pointing out others faults. Try to remember a time when someone pointed out one of your flaws and use that same demeanor to help your listeners.

Being a lying two faced jerk serves no one. Being an honest, trustworthy listener will gain you more value than gold.

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Conversation Agent: Ten Ways to Become a Better Communicator

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Essentially the article states that in order to communicate you must listen, first.

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How To Communicate Well With Anyone | Brand-Yourself.com Blog

I recall those trucker style hats that have the adjustable bands on the back. As a little youngster playing tee ball, I thought those bands were awesome. If only life wasn’t like those bands, where everything had a one size fits all approach.

Not everything has the cool adjustable band like those hats, but one element does: communication. Mastering the art of communication is a life long challenge, and one that no one masters completely, because there is too much to be learned.

You communicate daily with those around you. People you like and get along with, and people you have a hard time being around, but are forced to deal with. Luckily communication skills are flexible and can be tweaked to any situation no matter how grim. Mastering the art of being flexible is the key, as that is the ticket to success in academia, career and life.

How to communicate with those you get along with

It may feel natural to speak with or be around those whom you have no qualms with, and the conversation can typically be light and well rounded. Your shoulders let down and you can be yourself. These are typically good friends, your favorite class mate, or a friendly co-worker.

Ways to continue building these relationships:

• Pat them on the back for their successes – this will likely come easily anyway because you don’t mind giving them praise
• Teach them a skill they didn’t know – this gives you an opportunity to work on something together or be in a teach-and-learn scenario which strengthens your friendship

How to communicate with those you do not get along with

No matter how professional the setting, or on the other end, how relaxed the setting, you may feel you just can’t strike up a conversation, or hold a conversation of interest with someone you don’t connect with. It is critical that you realize right now that a high percentage of the people you likely deal with on a day to day basis may fit into this category. Why the phenomenon? Because of the vast array of personalities and backgrounds, we can’t all be the best of buds. In a perfect world that would be great. But in reality, its not the case.

No harm done, because here are a few skills to help you sharpen your verbal and non-verbal communications skills to deal diplomatically with those its hard to deal with:

• Meet in the middle – Build a communication bridge that can’t be crumbled. Don’t be defensive and work hard to see the other side
• We are all the same, really – Although they are the complete opposite of you, and may make your life miserable, work on yourself first, and worry about your attitude, not theirs
• Stop furling your brow – Non-verbal communication is huge. If you look annoyed or irritated, others know. Don’t be fake and smile until your face hurts, but show a little compassion and don’t give the evil eye

Lead the way and others will follow

Now that you’ve learned a few tips on improving the personal or professional relationships you have by communicating better, apply them often. Rinse. Repeat. When you step to the plate and get up to bat, hit the home run, others will high five you at home plate. The greatest leaders have often been the best communicators.

Challenge: Strike up a conversation with someone you struggle to talk with. Ask them about their background, learn something, and you never know what could come out of it.

About the Author: Mark Mathson sharpens his communication skills weekly by attending Toastmasters. He deals with all types of customers and does his best to communicate well so they can build dazzling Internet marketing campaigns. He enjoys conversing on Twitter and growing and adding value to his network on LinkedIn.

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How To Communicate Well With Anyone | Brand-Yourself.com Blog

I recall those trucker style hats that have the adjustable bands on the back. As a little youngster playing tee ball, I thought those bands were awesome. If only life wasn’t like those bands, where everything had a one size fits all approach.

Not everything has the cool adjustable band like those hats, but one element does: communication. Mastering the art of communication is a life long challenge, and one that no one masters completely, because there is too much to be learned.

You communicate daily with those around you. People you like and get along with, and people you have a hard time being around, but are forced to deal with. Luckily communication skills are flexible and can be tweaked to any situation no matter how grim. Mastering the art of being flexible is the key, as that is the ticket to success in academia, career and life.

How to communicate with those you get along with

It may feel natural to speak with or be around those whom you have no qualms with, and the conversation can typically be light and well rounded. Your shoulders let down and you can be yourself. These are typically good friends, your favorite class mate, or a friendly co-worker.

Ways to continue building these relationships:

• Pat them on the back for their successes – this will likely come easily anyway because you don’t mind giving them praise
• Teach them a skill they didn’t know – this gives you an opportunity to work on something together or be in a teach-and-learn scenario which strengthens your friendship

How to communicate with those you do not get along with

No matter how professional the setting, or on the other end, how relaxed the setting, you may feel you just can’t strike up a conversation, or hold a conversation of interest with someone you don’t connect with. It is critical that you realize right now that a high percentage of the people you likely deal with on a day to day basis may fit into this category. Why the phenomenon? Because of the vast array of personalities and backgrounds, we can’t all be the best of buds. In a perfect world that would be great. But in reality, its not the case.

No harm done, because here are a few skills to help you sharpen your verbal and non-verbal communications skills to deal diplomatically with those its hard to deal with:

• Meet in the middle – Build a communication bridge that can’t be crumbled. Don’t be defensive and work hard to see the other side
• We are all the same, really – Although they are the complete opposite of you, and may make your life miserable, work on yourself first, and worry about your attitude, not theirs
• Stop furling your brow – Non-verbal communication is huge. If you look annoyed or irritated, others know. Don’t be fake and smile until your face hurts, but show a little compassion and don’t give the evil eye

Lead the way and others will follow

Now that you’ve learned a few tips on improving the personal or professional relationships you have by communicating better, apply them often. Rinse. Repeat. When you step to the plate and get up to bat, hit the home run, others will high five you at home plate. The greatest leaders have often been the best communicators.

Challenge: Strike up a conversation with someone you struggle to talk with. Ask them about their background, learn something, and you never know what could come out of it.

About the Author: Mark Mathson sharpens his communication skills weekly by attending Toastmasters. He deals with all types of customers and does his best to communicate well so they can build dazzling Internet marketing campaigns. He enjoys conversing on Twitter and growing and adding value to his network on LinkedIn.

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Job Search: Communicate Your Specialty « Career Brander

Harry Beckwith is one of the great business minds of our generation.   His particular expertise is  around branding and modern-day marketing.  He is a NY Times bestselling author and head of strategy for Beckwith Partners. His firm services industry clients in 37 states and 16 foreign countries, ranging from boutique professional firms and venture-capitalized startups to 24 Fortune 200 companies.

Below is an excerpt from one of his books called The Invisible Touch.  Although primarily written for corporate branding advice, it clearly applies perfectly to personal branding.

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Communicating Your Special Expertise

A surprising lesson, learned the hard way.

Our doors opened in 1988 and we immediately acquired our first client, a national collection agency. For several months our work helped generate business for them. One afternoon in the following year, however, the client’s marketing director called with bad news. He was leaving the company and a new director would be replacing him-a danger signal to a service like ours.

Six months later, we received confirmation of the signal.

“We’ve chosen another agency.” the new director said.

“Oh Who?”

“We are a family business,” he said. “Mater & Pater specializes in family businesses.  They were hard to resist.”

Being diplomatic, we did not let this client know that no marketing or advertising agency specializes in family businesses. Or that “knowing” family businesses in marketing is like “knowing” brunettes in shoe sales: useless.  Unfortunately, “apparent” specialized knowledge mattered to that prospect-as it does to most.

The unique value of even worthless specialized knowledge can be explained by the fact: Every industry, like every person, believes itself-it’s markets, processes, challenges-to be unique.  Businesses and people believe that previous experience with similar businesses and people help, even when it doesn’t.

The title “specialist”– however fraudulent, irrelevant or even comical–packs a persuasive wallop.  You cannot justify, or argue with, the success of hair salons that specialize in blondes, benefits consultants that specialize in law firms, or ad agencies that “know” family businesses.

…..however irrational it is, understanding and capitalizing on this “specialist bias” can launch a small firm faster than any other single tool.

FIND YOUR SPECIALTY—NO MATTER HOW NARROW IT IS—AND COMMUNICATE IT CONVINCINGLY.

How well do you communicate your specialty?

To secure your next job, you will need to convincingly communicate why your skill set, experience and “apparent specialized knowledge” make you the best candidate to meet the hiring company’s needs.  Remember, perception can quickly become reality.

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How to Maintain Connections Online When it’s Just Not in Your DNA | Personal Branding Blog - Dan Schawbel

People like Dan Schawbel and Shane Mac impress me daily with their sheer connection determination and ability to follow up with people on a daily basis.

I, like many of you, don’t have this ability.  Sure I can try to do it, but I will quickly burn out; the sheer energy required to stay constantly connected to people would wear me out, leaving me useless to conduct more important, revenue generating projects.

My good friend asked me the other day, “Jun, I don’t have time to write 2 blog posts per week, comment on 1o blogs, and Tweet 10 times per day.  I have to spend time making money to feed and house my family.”

Understandable.  After all, we see a direct correlation between client work and money, but an indirect connection between blog posts and getting clientele.  The act of building a reputation, maintaining connections, and establishing expertise is very difficult indeed.

So what are we supposed to do?  After all, we can’t all be Dan Schawbel’s… or can we?

Here is I stay connected with people, while maintaining a focus on revenue-generating work:

1. Make it easy but difficult for people to get in touch with you

I love chatting with people on Gchat and Skype; however, I dislike getting disrupted when I’m busy doing work.  When I’m hardcore on a project, like writing this blog post for example, I will turn off Gmail and Skype.  However, when I’m doing less intensive projects or browsing online, then I’ll stay online but Red – busy or occupied.

Why I do this:

1. If someone messages me while I’m red, I know that it’s something important (automatically weeds out unimportant messages that can wait for later)
2. If I don’t want to speak with you, I can reply with an “I’m busy,” and you’ll understand because technically, I’m busy
3. I can keep conversations short and to the point

“Jun, you’re an awful for doing this.”  Maybe so, but this strategy ensures my productivity, keeps me happy, and allows me to focus on the most important tasks while maintaining availability to the important people in my life.

2. Use Comment Relish to generate an email back

There has been some back and forth online about whether Comment Relish is good for a blog or not.  Personally, I love the plugin because it has worked extremely well to build great relationships online.

If you’re a first-time commenter on my blog, then you will receive an automated message from me with the following:

1. A thank you for commenting on my site
2. Links to other things that I’m doing online
3. A message welcoming you to email me or @ me on Twitter to start a conversation

Like most of you, I get very busy and I’m not able to reply to my blog comments within 24 hours.  I therefore use this auto-email to message people immediately in case I forget to message them back.

3. Create email templates for events and other happenings

My good friend Yu-kai taught me this one.

I have some email templates that I use for many different things in life.  For example, I have an email template that I use to message people that I met during an event.

I used to come home after events, lay down my huge stack of business cards, and ignore them until I felt it was too late to message these people – yeah, complete waste of an event.

I therefore have a template that I can copy and paste (change certain keywords of course) that I send IMMEDIATELY after an event.  It has worked great with me and I’ve built many relationships because of it.

Note: I can already hear some objections now, “But that’s so un-authentic Jun.  You can’t just treat people without care by sending a template email.”

I completely disagree with you, and here’s why: I understand my DNA (as Gary Vaynerchuk would say).

I understand that I’m not going to spend hours writing a custom email for each person.  It’s impossible for me to do so, and dare I say, not an effective use of my time.  I will of course send a custom email if I built a strong relationship with you at the event, but if I look at the business card and I don’t remember your face, then I’m going to send you my template email with care.

4. Tungle to be effective

“Hey Jun, can you meet Wednesday night at 8pm EST?”

“No I can’t.  Can you meet Thursday morning at 11am PST?”

“No, I’m busy then too.  How about…”

Yes, this happened all the time for me, and I’m sure it happens to you too.

I now use Tungle to schedule all of my meetings (I sync it with my Google Calendar).  I no longer have to go back and forth 10 times via email just to set one Skype meeting.

5. Use downtime to do all the rest

At the risk of sounding like a weirdo, I will let you know how I do it.  This is my secret to staying connected with the internet world: I do all of my social Tweeting and commenting on the “John“.

Lets be honest with each other.  I don’t have the time to Tweet all day and read all of my friends’ blogs.  There is just not enough time for me when I have to produce good content online and run two companies.  Therefore, I keep my day effective by using my iPhone during my down times.

There are other moments of downtime as well:

1. Shopping with the girlfriend

   

2. Watching the Laker’s game
3. Waiting in line

I’m serious guys.  Try it for yourself 

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Don’t change who you are. If you’re not someone who likes to spend hours online commenting, Tweeting, and connecting with people who you haven’t spoken to in a while, then create systems that will make your life more effective.  Reach out to me and I promise, one way or another I will get back to you

Guest Author:

Jun Loayza is the President of Social Media Marketing and the Co-Founder of Viralogy – Ecommerce Intelligence.  He writes about his personal experience with love and entrepreneurship at his blog.  Feel free to reach out to Jun to chat about philosophy, entrepreneurship, love, and physical fitness.

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Be Heard but don't be a Jerk: Master the Casual Conversation | Brand-Yourself.com Blog

Working on your personal brand should be fun.  This should be an ongoing activity, and not a chore to accomplish.

So, as you work each day on making the best impression, networking and building relationships with others, there may be a few things that slip into your conversation that you should really try to avoid.

Three major items to avoid:

1.  Don’t name drop – Have you ever spoken with someone who just tosses out names of important figures during the course of a conversation?  How does that make you feel when you walk away?  You just might walk away thinking about how those names were just thrown out there with no real impact on the conversation.  Either you feel inferior, or you lose respect for whomever you were speaking with.  You may even experience a “really, they really just dropped 5 names in 3 minutes” sensation.  Really? Who does this person think they are?

●  Instead – Leaving names out of a conversation isn’t a bad thing if they aren’t necessary or relevant.  If someone wants to know they will ask.  

2.  Don’t be shy – If you have ever gone to a gathering, party or networking event, you will most likely have seen (or not noticed) that person standing off to the side, maybe by themselves, observing all of the other conversations taking place.  Don’t be that guy!

●  Instead – While people-watching can be entertaining, it does nothing for your network.  Take a few deep breaths and find one person you would like to introduce yourself to.  The next event you attend, meet two new people and keep growing from there.  Public speaking, even one on one with a stranger, is uncomfortable for some, but people who make a first approach are memorable.

3  Don’t Brag – Good things tend to happen to those who do not brag.  If you want to share good news with your close friends and family, this is one thing.  To share this same news with those you network with has the potential to be misinterpreted to have a negative impression.  You may have the most sincere of meanings behind the discussion but the recipient may not share your sentiment.

●  Instead – Put the focus on the person you are speaking with at that time.  Ask questions about what they do and be absolutely interested during the conversation.  Get to know them better.  If you in turn are asked questions that lead you to sharing some information, great.  Just don’t provide it without prompting if it isn’t relevant or interesting to your conversation partner.

Personal branding is about how you are perceived by others.  Just because you think you’re awesome doesn’t mean everyone else will, so choose your topics of conversation wisely.  Don’t make things hard on yourself by even giving others the slightest impression that you might be a selfish, arrogant jerk.  Take the high road and the positive approach, and your reputation will benefit. 

Keith McIlvaine manages the recruiting social media strategy for a Fortune 500 company and is an avid networker.  He is a corporate recruiter, social media advisor, coach, speaker, blogger and an all around social networking fanatic.  Connect with Keith on LinkedIn, Twitter, Facebook or on his blog at the HR farmer.  (The statements posted on this site are mine alone and do not necessarily reflect the views of my employer)

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Alexandra Levit's Water Cooler Wisdom: How to Work with Someone Older

There are currently four generations in the workforce, so chances are you’ve found yourself in the position of having to work closely with someone older.  Maybe you’re even in a powerful position in which you are trusted with weighty responsibilities.  Good for you!

Now…don’t let it go to your head. In particular, you’ll want to be careful of having an attitude of superiority.  In dealing with an older co-worker, show humility and demonstrate respect for her years of experience.  After all, she may have been doing her job while you were still in high school, and having a younger colleague with a similar title might be a tough pill for her ego to swallow. 

Even if you feel you know exactly what needs to be done, ask your co-worker for input and be open to learning from her.  This way, she will want to see you succeed instead of undermining your position.

As soon as you are assigned to work with an older colleague, make sure you are keeping the lines of communication open.  Schedule regular project meetings, ensuring that he understands where you are coming from and how you would like to work on an everyday basis.  Strengthen the relationship by learning what’s important to him and showing interest in those things even if you can’t relate to them personally.

If you’re going to happy hour with your younger work pals, invite her along.  Once you get to talking about things you have in common – like Major League Baseball or overseas travel, the age difference won’t seem quite as significant. 

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Seth's Blog: "Powerpoint makes us stupid"--these bullets can kill

The US Army reports that misuse of Powerpoint (in other words, using Powerpoint the way most people use it, the way it was designed to be used) is a huge issue.

I first wrote a popular short free ebook about this seven years ago and the problem hasn't gone away. So much for the power of the idea.

Here's the problem:

• Bullets appear to be precise
• • They define the scope of the issue, even if they are wrong
  • They are definitive, even if they aren't
• Bullets that are read from the screen go in one ear and out the other
• Bullets are used as a defensive measure
• • see, I told you this in the meeting on 12.3.08
• Bullets are unemotional and sterile
• The lizard brain causes us to make presentations that are too long so that nothing in particular gets commented on or remembered or criticized
• It is harder to interrupt and have a conversation with someone who has a clicker

See what I mean?

If there was any other tool as widely misused in your organization, you'd ban it. The cost is enormous in lost opportunity and lost time. Guns don't kill people, bullets do.

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Follow Up Letters After a Rejection | EmploymentDigest.net

The expression, “When you fall off a horse, you’ve got to get back in the saddle” applies to finding a job as well. Most of us know how hard it is to go through the interview process, get your hopes up about landing a dream job, only to be crushed by a rejection letter saying “we appreciate your interest, but you are not a match at this time”.

Many job seekers will want to retreat from their search for employment after being turned down, especially with the contacts at the company that just spurned them. However, as hard as it may feel, following up after a job rejection is an important step in the job hunt and may even possibly be the feather in your hat that ultimately gets you back in the workforce.

Ben Franklin has said that “energy and persistence conquer all things”. Show your stick-to-it-iveness by creating a positive letter that you can send to your interviewer that communicates your continued interest in the position, reiterates how your skills could benefit the company, and to thank the contact for making their acquaintance.

Not only does writing a post-rejection follow-up letter show an unparalleled level of graciousness, it also can be your foot back in the door if the candidate hired instead of you unexpectedly leaves or is let go after a few months on the job or if new work jobs arise. These types of departures happen more frequently than you think after the honeymoon period is over and conflicting expectations arise. Even if you weren’t at all in the running for the job, a follow up letter shows that you are a resilient, high-quality professional. With this in mind, you will develop a valuable reputation and possibly be referred for opportunities elsewhere.

Example:

Dear Mr. Smith:

Thank you for meeting with me this past March when I was under consideration for the Director of Marketing position in your company. While I was not ultimately offered the position, my interest in joining your organization remains strong. I would like to check in from time to time to see if you are planning on adding any new jobs that suit my skills in the near future.

As we discussed in an earlier interview, by background consists of 10 years of experience in the industry, a strong performance record and a Master’s in Business Administration. Since our last meeting, attended a professional workshop in your industry and completed several freelance marketing assignments.

Attached is an updated copy of my resume. I look forward to speaking with you about future opportunities. I may be reached at xxx-xxx-xxxx or email@email.com.

Sincerely, Joe Q. Jobseeker

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Personal Branding Blog: 7 Tips to Boost the Clarity of Your Personal Brand

Whether they’re right or not, people form impressions of your personal brand based on the way you write – from emails, to web profiles, to proposals to cover letters.  Today we’ll go over seven tips to improve your writing skills.

Impressions form fast

Readers assume that if your…

• Writing is sloppy: You don’t care about quality.
• Writing rambles on: You have no sense of purpose.
• Writing is formatted poorly: You have no sense of design.
• Writing is too informal: You are immature.
• Writing is unorganized: You can’t convey information effectively.

Luckily, you can make your writing clearer and more effective by following a few basic guidelines.

1. Decide for whom you’re writing.

Put yourself in your audience’s shoes: What do they want to know? Give them what they want and nothing more (they’re busy). Where do they expect to find what they’re looking for? Make sure it’s where they expect it to be, whether it’s your email signature or your LinkedIn profile.

2. Get to the point.

Writing is most effective when it’s simple. Your reader doesn’t want to follow you down a winding garden path. Most messages can be clarified by putting it into fewer words. Longer sentences do not make anyone seem more intelligent. The amount of time required to process a sentence with n words is n^3. So if you cut the length of a sentence in half, it will be 8 times easier to read.

3. Keep it skimmable.

Accept the fact that your reader is going to skim-read your content. Not because they don’t like you, but because that’s how people read on their computer. They should be able to grasp everything you have to say by reading only the first sentence of every paragraph. Generally state your main point before you give reasoning that leads to it.

4. Don’t use jargon.

The minute you drop a word or abbreviation your readers don’t understand, you’ve potentially lost them. Don’t risk it – speak in plain English that anyone can understand.

5. Play the devil’s advocate.

Be your biggest critic. Is there anything that can be misunderstood? Are you making assumptions that your readers may not share? If so, tweak your messaging.

6. Proofread, proofread, proofread.

Fix grammar, spelling and punctuation. Then have two other people go through it for mistakes. We’re often too close to our own writing to spot small mistakes.

7. Use formatting to highlight your main points.

Make sure anything that catches your reader’s eye draws them to your main points. Use bulleted lists to convey information quickly. Use bold headings to help the reader decide which section will tell them what they need to know.

By working them in to your writing process, you will enhance your ability to effectively communicate and exude a personal brand that stands for quality and clarity.

To wrap up, here are today’s tips to improve the clarity of your writing – and thus the clarity of your personal brand:

1. Decide for whom you’re writing
2. Get to the point
3. Keep it skimmable
4. Don’t use jargon
5. Play the Devil’s advocate
6. Proofread, proofread, proofread

Author:

Pete Kistler is a leading Online Reputation Management expert for Generation Y, a top 5 finalist for Entrepreneur Magazine’s College Entrepreneur of 2009, one of the Top 30 Definitive Personal Branding Experts on Twitter, a widely read career development blogger, and a Judge for the 2009 Personal Brand Awards. Pete manages strategic vision for Brand‐Yourself.com, the first online reputation management platform for job applicants, named one of the Top 100 Most Innovative College Startups in the U.S.

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Trial by Fire? No, it's a Bad Interview | My Global Career

Corporate interviews have become endurance tests, a common way of simulating how candidates will respond if hired. Job candidates sitting on the hot seat can expect to hear the same questions posed four to seven times in a single afternoon. While job seekers are judged on every little detail, feeling pressure not to make mistakes, paradoxically, interviewers often believe they have latitude to come across as aloof, disorganized or rude.
But in a future tightened labor market, candidates may experience a role reversal. Savvy employers may drop the fortress mentality – lowering a drawbridge across the moat of fire. For example, some firms may devote more of the interview process to “sell” candidates on the company.
Not surprisingly, job seekers have a litany of complaints about the interview process. According to a study of 3,725 job seekers, conducted in five global regions by Development Dimensions International (DDI), in conjunction with Monster, the biggest complaints interviewees make are these:

Interview Habits That Most Annoy Job Seekers

Source: Development Dimensions International, Inc.

The situation is dire when even recruiters harangue their peers. Allison Boyce, Candidate Development Manager, Deloitte Services, asserts in ERE.net (a recruiter publication) that some of her peers haven’t changed tactics to fit the current talent shortage. Boyce says that many of her peers are guilty of:

• Waiting two weeks to respond to résumés
• Missing interview days/refusing to schedule interviews
• Missing telephone screens
• Taking three to four weeks to extend an offer
• Allowing one person’s opinion to override six other decisions to hire.

That sounds like a process ripe for reform. “Believe it or not in the US we probably do the best job of any country in how we treat candidates. It’s absolutely medieval in the UK,” contends Boyce, who emphasizes that she is expressing her own opinions. In Boyce’s view one of the problems is that candidates aren’t told what to expect from the process, which often drags on for months for executive hires.
In theory, job interviews can be “dealmakers or deal breakers” say the authors of the DDI/Monster Study. The study finds that two-thirds of job candidates say that the “interviewer moderately or significantly influences their decision” to take the job if offered.
What does the interviewing process tell job candidates about the employer? “The interview process with the recruiter doesn’t give me much more insight into the company than I already had via my own research and networking,” says B. Lee Jones, former CIO of a midsize, multinational company in Silicon Valley. “The only thing that is sometimes beneficial is their perspective on what the employer is looking for.”
Knowing a recruiter or colleague inside the company can prove invaluable. But unfortunately for most job candidates, researching how employers conduct a hiring process is rarely possible. While it is easy to find corporate mission statements, there is little to no information posted on corporate careers web pages that help a candidate prepare for what’s often a trial by fire.
According to the DDI/Monster job seeker study, at least one interviewer posed the following insightful question: “If you were a dog, what kind would you be?” That’s a tough call, but in a situation like that, I would have to go with pit bull. Let them draw their own conclusions.

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6 Steps to Establish Credibility

Walter Cronkite, the veteran US newsreader described as "the most trusted man in America", has died at his home in New York at the age of 92 from brain disease.
London Guardian 

If you find it hard to get a job, get promoted, make friends, get dates, it is probably because you have no credibility. 

Here are 6 steps that you can take to establish credibility.

1. Always tell the truth, ie. NEVER LIE.

This should go without comment, however I have personally witnessed outright lying at all levels. If you want to be taken seriously, you must tell the truth. The whole ugly truth.  The truth will always be uncovered eventually. Don't pull a Clinton who diminished the reality with a truthful but misleading statement. I have found tremendous success in telling the most ugly, naked, undefiled truth. Followed by some ideas on how to make it better. You will never succeed long term by telling lies. Some people will despise you for being a goody-goody but no one will question your integrity.

2. Get back to people.

Return emails, return snail mail, twitter requests, voicemail, return phone calls, SMS (texts), etc. Make it a point to always reach out to each individual person who contacted you.

When you do not know the answer to a question, get back to them. Why are people afraid to say they do not know? Usually because they did not do their job and are unprepared. They lie in an attempt to cover up their failing. Just answer that you will get back to them. Go find out the answer and then let them know.

3. Be predictable.

Get to work at the same time, take lunch at the same time and wear the same thing every day. Establish a pattern of reliability. People will come to trust and rely on you if you are predictable. Credibility is just the next step.

4. Be dependable.

Deliver your assignments on time, not the day before or the day after. Deliver what is expected. You can enhance this ability by volunteering for assignments then delivering them. Make a point to verbally accept the assignment and the date, follow up with an email. Soon, you will be the go to superstar on the team.

5. Listen.

There is not one person in the world who does not have something to say. Listen to them and they will tell you everything. Listen to them and you will become their best friend. Listen and the world will open up to you. Remember it is not important what they say, or how they say it. Listening is important because you are investing in them as a person.

6. Bonus: To get noticed think like Houdini and add a little sizzle to your deliveries.

Houdini was the greatest illusionist of the modern times because he learned how to create anticipation in the audience and then deliver. He always delivered. Every time, without failing. At the beginning of his career he would execute a string of complicated tricks flawlessly but to an uninspired audience. Then he learned how to create anticipation and with his execution and showmanship became famous. Get noticed by creating anticipation, then deliver.

Hint: The common thread in these tips is focus on the other person, not yourself.

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How to talk about yourself without bragging! | CareerEnlightenment.net

Guest Post by Diane H. Craver:

I’m a career coach, and it’s amazing to me how many people I run into that don’t like to talk about themselves. They think it’s bragging, or rude, or vulgar.

Houston, we have a problem!

If you are in a job search, wanting to move ahead at work, or trying to get clients for your business, you have to learn to talk about yourself in a way that informs people authentically about what value you create. I like to think about this as educating people on what I do best, what I want to do, and why.

Elevator speeches are not for me

I’ve never liked the concept of an elevator speech because the last time I was in an elevator no one spoke and no one dared make eye contact. So I don’t do elevator speeches, and no one can make me.

There does however come a time when you must talk about yourself and you need to know what to say & how to say it. Here’s my process: authenticity, brevity, and passion.

Be honest about the value you create

Just be honest about how you create value. If you don’t know, you might want to look at your

I like to think about this as educating people on what I do best, what I want to do, and why.

performance reviews, survey your clients, or ask people who would tell you the truth. Take a few days & make a list without editing anything – just keep the flow going. Be sure you focus on what value you create because no matter what you like to do, you have to find a buyer.

Keep it simple, keep it brief

Let the fun begin and start editing. Get some help if you need it. Think about finishing this sentence, “I’m at my best when…”

It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it – not true

Well, actually it IS what you say … and it’s how you say it. Think about how you would talk about what would motivate you to get up every day and do that thing you do so well. What will you say to inspire others to ask you for more? What will you say to help them remember you?

It’s the thought that counts … and the gift

You’ve put a lot of thought into what you do best and what would motivate you to do it every day. Think of what you say about yourself as a gift you give to others. Your message is sincere and content rich, and even inspiring. Paint a picture for people so they see you succeeding. Also, if you need help, people need to know how to help you.

Want an example? Here’s mine:

I am a career coach. I’m at my best when I’m helping people connect their strengths, values and passions with the organization or business. I use a creative process to help them get really clear about what they want so they’re motivated to take action. Our careers affect every component of our lives; I consider it an honor to help people find work they really enjoy and make a positive impact.

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My Global Career: Eight Steps to Make Communication a Vital Skill

The art of everyday communications should be every executive’s number one priority. Every statement and every communication must contain the elements connected to company success, including its values, motivation, goals and objectives. However, successful communication is not just about idea, it’s also about how it is said.

These eight steps will help you turn communication into a hot skill, pivotal to advancing both your career and your company’s agenda:

The first step for leaders is to constantly keep internal and external communication lines open. Quick and responsive replies to all queries will ensure that everybody is on top of the game and keeping evolving situations transparent.

The second step for leaders is to be their staff’s most valuable resource. This is done by having a constant open door so staff can feel comfortable to ask for help, share issues and problems and get advice in relation to their personalized tasks and roles.

The second step is about leaders being able to respond to all communications without interfering in their daily responsibilities. This can be done by prioritizing situations expressed in communications and practicing effective time management through vetting each communication on its individual merits.

The third step is enforcing corporate values and acceptable behaviors. This powerful tool cannot only address concerns but recognize the value of the communication and the person communicating it. It’s also a means of expressing appreciation and confidence in staff.

The fourth step is to remain focused on company/client communications through the feedback loop. This works by maintaning constant and open communications with each and every client. This level of communication accounts for the individual differences between clients. Its personalized nature improves retention and sustains the company’s advantage over competitors.

The fifth step is for companies to support their leaders in learning to communicate effectively. Not all leaders have fine-tuned communication skills. Some may need a coach or specialized training. Others may not feel comfortable making presentations, therefore requiring help in overcoming stage fright. However, if company leaders are not given the support they need, then the messages from the top can be lost or not communicated clearly to other staff.

The sixth step is overcoming resistance to communications improvement. It’s fundamental that every leader hones hiss/her skills in effective communications. Failure to do so will result in miscommunications, missed opportunitiies, customer/client/staff dissatisfaction and failure to meet objectives. If a leader refuses to cooperate, it may be become necessary to replace this leader with a new one.

The seventh step is providing communications training. Varied levels can be made available beyond the basics. This can include motivational speaking, public speakikng, media relations and effective listening/persuasion/influence. It mahy also be necessary to hire a communications specialist who will evaluate presentations and all other types of communications to see where the strengths and weaknesses lie. In turn, this person can advise, mentor and propose both changes and needed training.

The eighth step is to have a tam of communicators that can represent that company. They should be actively involved within the company and visible to others at all times.

Monster.com’s and Eons’ founder and CEO Jeff Taylor is very much aware of art daily communications. He accepted that communicating clearly so that all staff undersand the purpose and vision are critical to company success and continued profitability. Most improtantly, he recognized that the only way to pass on company messages is through all company leaders learning to communicate properly. In fact his understanding of my eight important steps in the art ofcommunications has helped him and his satff insure that this business clearly succeed.

Communications with any company is not only critical to the company’s success but an art form that cannot be ignored. Communicating daily is a top priority. Statements and other forms of communications must be directly linked to company objectives, goal, staff motivation and company values.

However, successful communications cannot be achieved simply by expressing an idea. How ideas are communicated can make or break a company. Open lines of communications must exist between leaders, staff, clients and customers. Leaders must also act as a resource for all staff, and enforce acceptable behaviors and transmit company values, and focusing on feedback from within and without the company must be maintained.

Most critically, companies must support leaders and staff in developing their communication skills. Such support has to include training, confidence in their abilities, effective communications and clearing out communications resistance. However, the best stratewgy is to create a confident team of well-trained communicators who can act as positive representatives for the company, both publicly and within company walls. With all these elements in place, success and communications become permanently linked.

Suzanne Bates, CEO of Bates Communications, is author of “Motivate Like a CEO: Communicate Your Stategic Vision and Inspire People to Act!” (McGraw Hill 2009) and the best-seller “Speak Like a CEO: Secrets for Commanding Attention and Getting Results.”  She also writes The Power Speaker Blog.

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